Soulful Soulmates

Happy Valentine’s Day to all readers of this special Valentine’s Edition!

Regardless of whether we already have that special someone in our life or not yet, today is a great day to be particularly joyful and happy, feeling romantic and loving. As is every day really, but that is perhaps a subject for another day.

To feel tuned in to the many aspects of love is always a great idea as it makes and keeps us happy!

Longtime readers of my books or previous articles here know that I have written quite a bit about love, the many kinds, among souls in human form or not, universal love, its active and passive forms, and so on.

But love can be painful too if it is not experienced with a grain of wisdom—by keeping the big picture in mind and remembering the perennial perspective of who we really are and what we came here to learn, experience, do and enjoy.

To celebrate this auspicious day, let me share a short excerpt from my first book in 1999 (Yes I Am Happy Now!), parts of a subchapter called My Mate.

Begin excerpt:

“Most of us look for a partner with whom we can share our life with. A person we can love and who loves us back. A person we can come to understand and who understands us. A person we can trust and who can put his/her trust back into us. A person who supports us and we can give support. Somebody with whom we are happy being with.

This is a very natural drive we all share. Everybody wants to love and be loved, at least by somebody. We all seek love automatically, it is an integral characteristic of our innermost being.

It is not something we learn later in school but it is a built in feature in every baby already.

Later in life when we look for a partner, we may become attracted to somebody. And we ‘fall in love.’ Sometimes we get ‘burned out’ when we get rejected or make other unpleasant, even painful experiences. So some people learn to be careful when it comes to love matters. They don’t easily trust other men or women anymore.

It doesn’t need to be that way when we learn to distinguish between attraction, attachment and love.

It usually goes in this order. The first attraction is often just a physical attraction. And it may grow into real attachment and finally, love. But that is not something we can expect to be automatically so. It depends on us, our feelings, thoughts and actions. And those of our partner.

When choosing our partner for life, or our ‘soul mate,’ we should be honest with ourselves and the person we meet. See whether we ‘click’ on the physical, mental and ultimately, spiritual level. Or whether we are attracted to a person just sexually, but find that person’s thinking, character, interests and activities rather boring. Or not very interesting anyway.

Are we really concerned with that person’s well being and if so, give him/her enough space and freedom to grow? Or are we just interested in that person for our own benefits?

The answers to such questions can come very early in a relationship if we are honest enough to ask them ourselves. Let your heart decide heart matters. Listen and feel within and you will know.

Your mind might say something totally different and spit out so many reasons speaking against a relationship. I know that if both my wife and I would have listened only to our mind, we would not be together now.

Some people, men and women, are not yet ready for a really deep relationship with just one person. And prefer, even without being aware of this fact consciously, to have many relationships. One after the other or even at the same time. Do we have monogamous or polygamous desires?

To enter a marriage and find out later that we are rather polygamous causes a lot of suffering and is certainly not the way to a happy lifestyle. Especially when children are already present.

In the same way as we learned to attract happiness, health and wealth into our lives, we can also attract our soul mate. It works just as well although you may need some patience. Because here we are dealing with a person who has his/her own desires and timetable.

It is not as easy as attracting the energies manifesting themselves as money. We deal with a personality and not an object. Our soul mate has free will and we need to trust that at the right time and circumstances we will meet.

This trust and patience, together with the strong desire to meet, is essential. And it will work!”

End excerpt.

Whether we already have a soulmate right now or not yet, we can always celebrate love in many of its magnificent forms at any time in any place. If you are currently alone, physically speaking, realize that you never really have to feel lonely when you go within and connect to both the endless and unconditional universal love that is always there for those truly desiring and willing to experience it.

And for anyone who has lost a soulmate and is in mourning today, you may hopefully find my Soulful Living article from 2013 to be of some help. In my second book, I have actually turned that response to a reader into a chapter by itself called Love in Separation.

Some of you however may still suffer from the consequences of a perhaps nasty breakup. To them, I’d like to offer a few thoughts.

First, insert the name of your Ex in place of X and affirm the following whenever you feel like it: “X can no longer enjoy the pleasure of my company, while I get to relish the peace of his/her absence.”

Initially that may sound a bit strange, yet come to appreciate both points as facts. Your own loveliness. And, it is far better to be happy alone than to share time, space and energy with someone who makes you feel miserable.

Second, a happy reminder (Number 47 of 365) from my series, And The Happy Rabbit Says…
A loving person is always enjoying happiness – love your Self as you are! (3 x 3 min.)

And third, another little saying, Number 94 of 365:
The Universe wants you to be a happy part of itself – feel this truth within – and be happy!

 

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