Your Unfolding Path A Quarterly Column July-Sept 2005 by Carol Adrienne, Ph.D. Carol's New Book

Let Your Dream Come Through

I first met Debra in 2003. She already had her own business, Creative Solutions, consulting with small business owners—a business she created after twenty years in the medical and insurance industries.

Intuition Breaks Through Persistently

Debra says, “This image of a new life started July 30^th of 2003, when I was taking one of your teleclasses, and I started getting some new ideas.  There were three artists in that group, who were talking about how to market themselves.  Listening to them, I started seeing a new direction for myself.   I had been feeling restless, and knew I wanted to do something different.  After the class, I began to think about selling art and promoting artists.  The idea of living in a closely knit community, closer to nature just seemed so appealing.  I’ve loved the East Coast since I was young.

Debra kept wondering which area would be the best for what she was imagining. Immediately, she started seeing articles about Maine everywhere.   “It was spooky,” she says, “For example, I was at the Target store one day and some guy came around the corner and had MAINE written on his shirt!  I have been receiving the idea of Maine for three years. [The day after I interviewed Debra, the husband of friend I was visiting came to the door wearing a MAINE sweatshirt. CA]

Debra started researching Internet sites about Maine, and corresponding with real estate agents.  She was further spurred on by two events.  The first was the death of her father last year.  “I found out that my dad was a real adventurer only after he died. He never once talked about this, but he left behind a story of his life. It revealed that he did what he wanted to do without any fear of being held back. Once I discovered all the things he had done and was involved in, I thought, ‘Okay, what’s my deal?’”

The second turning point for Debra was turning fifty.  She realized that if she didn’t make changes now, she might never do it. She started planning, and quickly realized that the only obstacle was having the guts to do it—an internal conflict. “It was me in the way.” 

Conflicts are Hard to Solve Until…

Internal conflicts have the effect of holding us back from trying something new.  For example, we want something, but we don’t feel that we deserve it.  Or we think we it’s too late to achieve it.  Or we don’t know how to make it happen.  So we do nothing.  One way to deal with internal conflicts is to make the issue into an external problem that can then be worked on step-by-step.

The first step for Debra was to get a notebook and write down every fear and concern. Her concerns were: worry about traveling alone; things that could go wrong; explaining her dream to others who thought she was being a little crazy to upset her present situation.  “For each concern I wrote down positive statements about how to deal with it.  Once I wrote solutions down, I knew I could deal with each worry.  Sometimes it was kind of silly—like fear of getting lost.  I thought, well if I get lost, I’ll ask somebody for help, like I always do! I also learned to keep my ideas to myself unless I was talking to someone who was receptive.

Debra had another common fear.  What if it turned out that Maine was not “it?”  What if her dream turned out to be just that and nothing more?  Many times, we prefer to keep our dream in our head, for fear of finding out that it’s going to be too hard to do, or disappointing.  In Debra’s case, she thought, “What is worse? To know it’s not going to work or not to know?  I’d rather know.” 

Debra made a plan for trip, but it wasn’t long before the plan fell apart—as plans are wont to do. Interestingly, her seatmate on the plane was a woman who travels all over the world by herself, and who told her how much she enjoyed it.  A great message for Debra! Her goal was to stay in Portland for a week, and drive to areas in which she was interested. In particular, she was looking for businesses to buy. The first day went well. But when she got to Portland, things began to deteriorate.  Debra says, “I ended up staying on the wrong side of town.  It wasn’t safe, and I was extremely uncomfortable, so I decided to move.  I opened my travel book to a random page, and put my finger down on listings for Freeport, Maine.  I called the first place—the Harrasseket Inn, and they had everything I wanted, so that’s where I went.” 

Debra’s experience on the trip proved that Portland was not where she wanted to be.  But in walking about the towns such as Freeport, she began to meet shop owners, who poured out local information and encouraged her to consider owning a business and living there.  “I felt wonderful,” says Debra, “I could see that having a store could be a real thing. Each day I had no plan, and just got drove around to wherever my intuition pointed.”  Old timers welcomed her. New arrivals from California encouraged her.  “I noticed that the women had a certain glow about them,” says Debra. “They were very happy.  That really impressed me.  Also, people who leave Maine, often return.  The whole time I was there, no one asked me what I do for a living.  What you do is secondary to who you are.  That felt so different from the people I know in California.  It seemed every person had a message for me.

“For example, one thing that has been bothering me for awhile at home,  is that I don’t have my own computer. I have to work on the family computers..  Therefore, I was flabbergasted when I walked into a little jewelry store in Maine, and the owner, who was sitting at her computer, looked up at me, and said, ‘You know, you need to have your own computer.  I’ll bet you work on everyone else’s computer, and you have problems because it’s not your own.  You need to get your own computer.’ She seemed to read my mind!”

For Debra, the trip proved a success because she now knows that what she wants  really exists.  “Now,” she says, “I’m putting a plan together to achieve it.  First on my list is to get my own computer!   Oh, and by the way, my friends say I glow. My best friend commented that I seem so much more spontaneous about getting together now.  Even my doctor said, and I quote: ‘You look like a whole new woman. What have you done?’” 

Now it’s your turn.  What dream or desire has been patiently sitting in the back of your mind?  What one step could you take to find out more, and let the dream come through?

Namaste,
Carol Adrienne

You can contact Debra at Dkdoyle@hotmail.com.
Carol Adrienne, Ph.D. is an intuitive counselor and life coach who has helped thousands of people work through doubt, procrastination, and obstacles to create the life they want to live. Private consultations and coaching available. Contact her at Carol22@sonic.net

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