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Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway, The Romance Reverend

Soulful Love
May 2002

by Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway

Every month, our Soulful Singles "Romance Reverend" shares her sage insights on relationships and getting ready for soulful love!  Send your questions to RomanceRev@SoulfulLiving.com.

Sacred Sexuality For Modern Men and Women

The Romance Reverend’s Tip for Testing Tantra – For Singles

Dear Romance Reverend,

What is "tantric" sex? I hear so much about it these days. Can singles get involved? How can I find out more? –Janie, Oregon

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Dear Janie –

Tantric sexuality is a sacred expression of romantic love that comes out of the ancient Hindu tradition, which honors the divine feminine and divine male in God, and teaches that divine love can be attained through a loving partnership between a man and woman. Because tantra treats the loving exploration of sexual pleasures as a sacred act, it can unite partners and inspire intimacy on all levels.

The best advice I have for singles is to study up on it, look at ways of making single life an even more sacred and enjoyable experience and develop a "tantra antenna" that can, when you are ready, draw the right partner to you. It is widely believed that the woman initiates the man to sacred pleasures, rather than waiting for a fully trained "Tantra Man" to show up! So do your homework, and be prepared! Eventually, couples engage in a back-and-forth exchange of energies so intimate, and so unifying, there is this great sense of oneness. That’s when they begin to feel they have, through one another, found God and Goddess.

Charles and Caroline Muir are my favorite teachers of tantric sex. They’ve brought it into the twentieth century in The Art of Conscious Loving Seminars they have been teaching around the world for many years. "We’ve taken the original tantric customs and have done our best to best to translate them for modern men and women," Charles explains. "Our course is designed to make you into a better kisser, lover and toucher. It’s also designed to make you a better communicator."

In Sanskrit, tantra means "expansion." Evidence of tantric rituals date back nearly five millennium. Practitioners of Tantric Yoga are taught sexual play and sexual union early on in life. Women passed knowledge along to children. Sex was just one of 65 arts, which included singing, breathing, meditation, chanting, writing and drawing, tattooing, and making beds and spreading out carpets and cushions for reclining.

One of the reasons tantra is so attractive to modern men and women is because it creates a sacred container for lovemaking that is very healthy for both partners. It honors our bodies, our sensual natures, and our power. It gives men and woman a way to be close without some of the typical barriers, such as shame, or fear of being known by another. Men have the chance to truly honor their women, because Tanta is a spiritual practice in which the female is revered, treated like a Goddess and her pleasure is the first priority.

This kind of intimacy and devotion to sexual love that empowers and evolves each partner, comes with practice--and patience. It requires a partner who wants to love you as fully and deeply as possible. As I have said many times before … the first key is to give ourselves that love and be willing to learn and experiment.

© Copyright 2002 Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway  All Rights Reserved. 

The Romance Reverend’s Tip for Testing Tantra –
For Singles

Tantric sex is not something for first dates, but to get started, you will find a tantric kind of "soul connection" though the eyes. Practice seeing into people’s souls, and you are beginning to practice tantra!

Eye contact is an aspect of tantra you can use any time – and it is not necessarily sexual or romantic. However, when you look deeply into someone's eyes you connect with them intimately and completely. That technique can help anyone develop immediate rapport in almost any situation. Looking into someone’s eyes also helps you "know them" and get a sense of what they are about. If a person can maintain the eye contact, it is a sign that they are not afraid to see you, or be seen by you. You can also trust the eyes to tell the truth about feelings. Look into the eyes of people you are attracted to and see if you can see love. The love they have inside them, as well as the love they feel for you, is always visible in the eyes. Tantra helps us to see if a potential mate or date has that certain twinkle, or warmth, before we do anything more than kiss with our eyes!

For more information and study:

Secrets of Female Sexual Ecstasy, (www.sourcetantra.com) is a home study video course produced by Charles and Caroline Muir. This video is highly educational and also graphic.

How To Seduce A Man and Keep Him Seduced (Citadel/Kensington), by Laurie Sue Brockway. This is one of my earlier books. I did not pick the title -- it is really about bringing out the sex goddess in every woman. The final chapter explores tantra and tantric relationships and introduces readers to creating a sacred union with a loving partner.

The Complete Idiot’s Guide To Tantric Sex (Alpha Books) By Dr. Judy Kurinansky is a comprehensive, easy to follow, hands on tantra guide that offers a spiritual view of sexual power. Dr. Judy is a world-renowned clinical psychologist, sex therapist and tantra expert. Her advice on her top-rated radio call-in advice shows has been followed by millions of fans. In addition to guiding couples on how to have more magical, playful and loving relations, she addresses dating and mating for singles and how individuals can incorporate tantra styles and practice tantric sex without a steady partner, as well as how to find the perfect tantra partner. She contends tantra can enrich all individuals regardless of age, lifestyle or relationship status and she discusses how the tantra traditions offer hope and healing in the world today.


Have you ever seen love twinkle in someone's eyes?
How did it make you feel?


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Read Reverend Laurie Sue's Past Columns:

April 2002 - "When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons"

March 2002 - "When Life Has You Down, Remember You Are Loved"

February 2002 - "Plan a Valentine's Day Team Date"

January 2002 - "Do I Hear Him Knocking … From the Other Side?"

December 2001 - "How Do We Make Our Love Dreams Come True?"

November 2001 - "What is the Future of Love?"

October 2001 - "Getting to Know 'Lakshmi' the Goddess of Good Fortune"

September 2001 - "Can't Hurry Love... It Will Happen in Its Right Moment"

August 2001 - "Family Rituals Help Us Grow Into Loving Beings"

July 2001 - "Dreams Warn It’s Time To Own Your Power"

June 2001 - "A Fun Visual of Your Favorite Romance"

May 2001 - "Someday Your Mystical Soul Mate Will Come"

April 2001 - "Enjoy the Merriment and Fun of An Ancient Love Holiday"

March 2001 - "Nourish Yourself On a Date for One"

February 2001 - "Get Ready for Soulful Love"

Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy person who specializes in matters of the heart and soul. As an ordained interfaith minister and non-denominational wedding officiant, it is her honor to regularly marry couples in love.

Prior to becoming a minister she enjoyed a successful and colorful 20 years in media as a widely published journalist, editor and author of several books on relationships and romance—as well as being a noted spokesperson on those topics. She was editor-in-chief of two national magazines and several regional publications, and her articles have been published around the world and in many newspapers and national magazines, such as the NY Daily News, The Washington Post, Women’s News, New Woman, Ladies’ Home Journal and Child. She evolved years of specialized reporting in the field of male-female relationship dynamics into a more spiritual pursuit that led her to train to be an interfaith minister, and then establish her wedding ministry along with a number of popular relationship enhancement programs. Her wedding ministry is based in New York.

She is also dedicated to bringing about a deeper awareness and understanding of the Divine Feminine. As a graduate of The New Seminary in NYC, the world’s premier seminary for interfaith ministers, she was educated and trained in the tenants, spiritual practice and worship of many faiths. She became a specialist in the feminine aspects of God in all the world’s religions. Today, she is widely recognized as a minister, teacher and scribe specializing in women’s spirituality and The Divine Feminine from an interfaith and all-inclusive perspective. She is on the board of directors of World Light Fellowship, heading up their Feminine Faces of God programs, and is Founder of Our Mother’s House, a cyber ministry at www.OurMothersHouse.org.

Long devoted to helping women access the "Goddess Within," she is currently working on two books that bring the wisdom of ancient archetypes to modern women. Her newest book, A Goddess Is a Girl's Best Friend, is due out from Perigee Books in December 2002.

To be placed on a mailing list for information about A Goddess Is A Girl’s Best Friend: OurMothersHouse@aol.com


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