Since 9/11, our society has been challenged
as never before. Anxiety and stress fill the air so
thick we can feel it around us. Our sense of safety has
been undermined, and along with it our sense of control.
We lived under the illusion of control for so long
that we may have come to believe in it. We may have
believed we were, for the most part, in charge of our
external safety -- if only we drove carefully or didn’t
walk in dangerous areas, and so on.
That illusion of control has been pulled out from
under us and many of us are left with knots of anxiety.
How do we feel safe in such an unsafe world when death
could come out of nowhere?
In reality, our external safety is never assured
because we are mortal beings whose bodies can be harmed.
To think otherwise is to maintain a belief in
controlling others and external events that does not
exist, and never has existed.
The anxiety and stress will continue until we can tap
into our personal spiritual Guidance, our source of
love, wisdom and compassion that is always available to
all of us. While we cannot move beyond caring about the
safety of our bodies, we need to move more into caring
about the safety of our souls.
Now, more than ever, we need to be able to turn to a
reliable spiritual process for our sense of safety.
Would you feel scared if you were able to tap into a
reliable source of spiritual wisdom to guide you in your
decisions regarding when to get on a plane or when to
attend a crowded event? If you knew that this Guidance
was available each and every moment, would you be so
The Guidance is here, always. The challenge is to
Spiritual Guidance vibrates at a higher frequency
than we do, so the challenge is to raise our own
frequency. The secret to raising our frequency lies in
our intent. Basic to the Inner Bonding process
that I teach, there are only two possible intents: to
protect against responsibility for our own feelings and
behavior through some form of controlling behavior, or
to learn about loving ourselves and others.
Positive feelings such as love, compassion,
acceptance, joy and peace raise the frequency, while
negative feelings such as anger, anxiety, depression,
judgment, and shame lower it. Processed, greasy, sugary
and pesticide-laden foods also lower our frequency.
There are many experiences that can assist us in raising
our frequency, such as meditating, praying, being in
nature, practicing yoga and other breathing techniques,
or listening to beautiful music. However, none of these
will raise your frequency high enough to access
spiritual Guidance unless your deepest desire in the
moment -- your intent -- is to learn about loving
When you ask your Guidance (which can be your
experience of God, or a light, a presence, a guardian
angel, a mentor or teacher, or the highest part of
yourself), "What is most loving to me in this
moment? What is in my highest good?" you
automatically raise your frequency and open the door to
your personal spiritual Guidance. Once your intention is
to learn about loving yourself and you are willing to
take the loving action you are guided to do, then all
the other ways of raising the frequency may be of help
It is when you can access your personal spiritual
Guidance that you are then able to take loving care of
yourself. You will create an inner sense of safety and
serenity when you are willing to learn to take 100
percent responsibility for all your own feelings of both
pain and joy.
Learning to hear, see and feel the messages from your
spiritual Guidance takes practice. The more you
practice, the more you t rust that you are never alone
and that you really are being guided toward your highest
good. This is what will release your stress and create
your sense of safety.
It may be difficult to practice opening to spiritual
Guidance if you believe it doesn’t exist, or that it
will not show up for you personally. The only way you
will know for sure whether or not this guidance is here
is to practice moving into the intent to learn about
loving yourself with your Guidance and see what happens.
It takes a leap of faith to open to learning with
something that you are not sure even exists.
Years ago I read the Carlos Castenada’s books.
Carlos was being mentored by a teacher named Don Juan.
At one point, Don Juan stated that he would choose the
time of his own death. Carlos asked him (I am
paraphrasing the question since I no longer have the
book) "What if you were walking through the desert
one day and someone was hiding behind a rock ready to
shoot you?" Don Juan’s answer was one I never
forgot: "I wouldn’t be there." He wouldn’t
be there because he would have tuned into his Guidance
and would have been told not to go there.
This is what we all need in these difficult times. We
each need to do all we can to keep our frequency high,
for this is how we can each help our planet. The attack
on our country has made all of us vulnerable to the
darkness of fear, anger, anxiety. stress and depression.
We cannot afford to give in to this darkness.
We can each stay in love, peace and joy, rather than
in fear, anxiety and depression, only when our intent is
to learn about loving ourselves and we stay tapped into
our Guidance throughout the day.
Our very way of life is at stake here. Most of us
cannot go out and directly deal with the darkness that
destroyed that killed so many innocent people. What we
can do is stay in the light - in love, peace and joy
through our intent to learn and our connection with
Spirit. Darkness cannot exist in the face of light. The
more of us that stay in the light, the more power we
have to overcome darkness. We each have the
responsibility to move out of our intent to control and
into the intent to learn about loving ourselves and
others. We all have the responsibility to raise our
frequency and stay in connection with the God/Goddess
energy of love and compassion. We each need to become
spiritual warriors, taking loving action even when it is
hard to do so. Through our own loving action, perhaps
then our country will be guided toward taking whatever
action that is in our highest good and the highest good
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the
co-creator of Inner Bonding, a transformational six-step
spiritual healing process. She is a best-selling author,
noted public speaker, workshop leader, consultant and
Inner Bonding facilitator. She has been leading groups,
teaching classes and workshops, and working with
individuals, couples, partnerships and businesses since
Margaret is the co-author of Do
I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? (over 400,000
copies sold), Free to Love, Do I Have To Give Up Me To
Be Loved By My Kids?, Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be
Loved By You?...The Workbook, Healing Your Aloneness,
The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, and author of Inner
Bonding and recently released, Do I Have To Give Up Me
To Be Loved By God? Her books have been translated into
ten languages: German, Italian, Danish, French, Spanish,
Portuguese, Chinese, Japanese, Dutch and Hungarian.
Healing Your Aloneness and The Healing Your Aloneness
Workbook are best-sellers in Germany. In her spare time,
she is an artist. She has three grown children.
888-6INNERBOND (888-646-6372), Margaret@innerbonding.com,
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