Lao Tzu said, "Knowing others is wisdom. Knowing yourself is enlightenment."
This month's topic involves Numerology and the issues behind the
relationships in our lives. When it comes to relationships, I think that if
those involved are willing to support a relationship, especially marriage,
then you can allow the relationship to grow and prosper. However, I do
believe that we first need to know ourselves before we can build strong,
lasting and supportive relationships. With the aid of introspective tools,
such as Numerology, you can know more about your potential strengths, skills
What I would like to look at this month is how each individual handles
emotional expression in a relationship. Your ability or failure to express
can influence the success of any relationship. When I talk about expressing,
I am talking about your ability to be open, honest, supportive, clear and
fully active in a relationship. Of course some people are more prone to
suppress their feelings, like anger, than others are.
Numerologically, we will want to examine our emotional capabilities.
Naturally, openly sharing your thoughts, feelings, and emotions can help to
build trust and develop or deepen relationships. Most likely, we all have
room to expand in this area. Within a relationship, especially the romantic
ones, sharing is like watering your crops. When it comes to emotions, we
would want to continue to look at our Personal
Year, so that we will know some of the general Numerological influences
that may be influencing ourselves and our partners. If you are not aligned
with the energy/vibration of your particular Personal Year then it may be
difficult to contribute to a relationship as you may feel stressed, over
burdened, and rushed.
You may also be in a time period that is better suited for taking care of
special issues. For instance, a #4 year is about building stability and
taking care of personal or family issues. If you have older parents or young
children then it could be more important to provide time for their care.
This could also be a year when you need to take care of your own health
issues. You will need to evaluate whether or not you are handling the
issues that are appropriate for you. Sometimes we can easily balance our
lives. It is up to you to find a way to balance your life. Remember that now
is when you are living. How you live today will pave the way toward your
future. Your focus, personal attitudes and feelings towards yourself and
others help to shape the way in which you live.
Evaluating the questions below may help you decide whether or not, now is
the time for a relationship in your life.
1. Do I have time for a relationship?
2. Am I physically ready for a relationship?
3. Am I mentally ready for a relationship?
4. Am I emotionally ready for a relationship?
5. Am I spiritually ready for a relationship?
6. Am I utilizing my resources appropriately?
If the answer to all of the questions above is yes, then you are probably
ready for a relationship. Otherwise, then the most important relationship to
work on is the one with yourself. Your personal numbers can help to
illustrate where you will need the most work.
Depending on your personal numbers, you may find developing relationships during a particular time period to be
easier than at other times.
have challenges in life and personal growth and learning to do. Assisting others with their growth and
helping others can be a great way to foster all kinds of relationships. We
are not here alone. We don't exist just as individuals. We also are here
with or in search of significant people in our lives, such as our friends,
family, lovers and partners.
There is always something that you could be doing to improve yourself and
the relationships in your life. Certain years and time periods are
beneficial to contemplation and discussion, while others are better suited to
action. During the time periods in your life when you feel alone, you could
reach out and join any number of groups, clubs, or volunteer agencies. Who
knows where this will lead? During a #1 year, this can be a great way to get
out and begin a variety of new types of relationships, which is one way to
harness to power of the "new beginnings" that the #1 represents. During the
other years, and time periods, it still can be a great way to stay connected
with your community. Don't be afraid to take some risks.
After you have a better grasp of your Personal Year Number, you can then
determine your Personal Month Numbers each month. This is a simple process
of adding the current calendar month number to your Personal Year Number. If
your Personal Year Number is 5, and it is currently December then add 12 to
5. (12 + 5 = 17). After reducing ( 1 + 7 = 8) you will find that your
personal month is 8. By understanding the
basic meaning of the primary Numerology numbers you will then be better
able to understand the ebb and flow of your personal year. Within a
relationship, communication can be facilitated by
aligning with and understanding the Numerological cycles of your partners.
You may also want to use some of your own personal numbers, such as your
Soul Number, Life Path, and Outer Number to open up a
discussion about yourself and the your relationship with a significant
other, or potential partners. Perhaps you do not see the qualities that a
particular number represents, but your partner may. This can be a good way
to get to know each other better. Your personal numbers can always help to
illustrate where you shine, and where you will need the most assistance in
your life. Dialogue with your partner can highlight your strengths,
challenges and weaknesses. Also, your dialogues can focus in on areas of
your personality that are fine, and those that need to be changed. Your
talks with your partners can allow each of you to know how much "inner
acceptance" the other person has. Are you happy with yourself?
The more accepting you are of yourself, the less dependent on others
you will be. Over dependence on others (Codependency)
can be detrimental to your emotional health. It can be important, especially
in the beginning of a relationship, to set boundaries
with your partner. Setting boundaries means that you are willing to take
responsibility, and that you demand equality and respect in a relationship.
Boundaries can develop as we learn to respect, honor, value, trust and
listen to ourselves and others.
When you feel threatened, angry, or victimized, then you will have an understanding of the boundaries
that need to be set in your life. Individuals with introverted personalities
and Soul Numbers may need help setting boundaries. Your Soul Number
represents qualities which are more internal, and thus not easily recognized
by others. If you don't ask for assistance, then nobody may recognize that
you need it. For those individuals who feel more introverted, bookish, or
aloof (such a 4, 5, 7) they may have a tougher time dealing with these
feelings, or expressing them. They may need some type of outside assistance.
Your other numbers will help to paint your personality, but only you know how
emotionally active and mature you are.
Ultimately, only you can know if now is the right time for a relationship
and whether you are indeed in a relationship with the right "compatible" person. Hopefully, you
will both be willing to work out your differences and make the necessary changes in
your personalities so that you can get along. Ideally, the relationships in
your life should be healthy, open and mutually supportive. Real connections
are important, regardless of whether you are connecting with a
business partner or significant other.
Good luck on your journey in Soulful Living and Numerology.
Copyright © 2002 Rob Ragozzine. All