by Bruce D Schneider, Ph. D.
MYTH: "I will be happy
What do you think would truly
make you happy? Letís suppose one of your answers
would be to make more money. If you were given a million
dollars but told that you couldnít spend it, money
would do you no good. If you were allowed to buy a house
that no one could live in, you would find the house
worthless, too. So what do you really want? If you donít
know, youíll greedily pursue material things, thinking
they will satisfy your needs.
What you truly desire is
abundantly available and not limited to the resources of
the physical world. Experiencing Love is all you really
want. Money, treasures, even good health and better
relationships are all things you think you need. But
they are only strategies Ė means, not ends, and only a
temporary part of a temporary physical world. They may
be important in this dimension, but when you are
completely awakened with Love, you realize you need
Where are you looking for Love?
Probably in all the wrong places. True Love, like true
happiness, is abundantly available and comes from
This doesnít mean you canít
work at a great job, have better health, or enjoy lifeís
material rewards. These things are for you to enjoy and
experience only while you are here. Once youíre an
awakened spiritual being, youíre free to consciously
experience all of lifeís physical rewards as an
addition to your life, instead of believing you need
anything for wholeness and happiness. You may say,
"Yes, but love doesnít pay the bills."
Survival is important of course, but merely surviving is
not our purpose here. Weíre here to enjoy this
experience and remember who we are.
Three steps to
"Therefore I say unto
you, what things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe
that ye receive them, and ye shall have them."
If you are ready, you can get
anything in this fantasy world in only three steps.
Step 1: Know what you want.
This means the feeling behind
what an object or person will help you to experience,
not the object or person. The Universe responds
literally to your thoughts, so be as specific as
possible. For example, donít wish for a better
marriage when you really want to share peace and Love
with another soul. Donít think you want better health
when you really want more energy and the ability to
experience life. Think carefully about what you really
want, so when you program for it, youíll create a
clearer picture in your mind (and Universe) so it can
more easily be manifested.
Step 2: Believe you can have
what you want.
You canít have something if
you donít believe you are capable of having it or
deserving of it. Itís not enough to merely desire
something; you must believe you are capable of owning
it. If youíre 5í9" and believe no one your
height could dunk a basketball, you never will. (But no
one told that to 5í7"
professional-basketball-player Spud Webb.)
Application: You deserve
If you think you donít
deserve something, challenge this belief. Where did this
idea come from? Is it a reality? Realize that you were
created to experience prosperity and abundance in all
things. There is nothing you donít deserve.
It is said that anything you
can conceive and believe, you can have. This is almost
the case, but if you want help from the Universal
Energy, thereís one more step.
Step 3: Accept that you
already have what you desire.
Once you accept that youíve
already received what you created in your mind, the
process is complete. If you sprain your wrist playing
tennis, see it healed using a visualization technique.
By creating in your mind that your injury is already
healed, that image will be manifested in the physical
world, and you will be back on the tennis courts much
sooner. If you want to find a loving partner, center
yourself and create an image of already enjoying your
life with the person you desire. (It is not necessary to
know who it is or to imagine a face.) If and when you
are ready, the Universe will unite you!
Thought is energy. This form of
energy is processed by your creative mind and printed
out as your reality. If youíre centered, you co-create
your printout with the power of the Universal Energy.
Your thought will be much stronger, resulting in the
creation of what you desire sooner.
"You can never get what
you want, but you can love all you have, and you
can have everything."
Sounds like a riddle, doesnít
it? By understanding and applying its secret, you unlock
your potential for abundance? You can never get anything
you want, ask for, or "pray" for, because your
body and the Universe knows only how to give you more of
what you already have. Nothing more, nothing less.
Getting confusing? Hang in there.
When you ask for something,
what message are you giving the Universe? The Universe
hears, "I do not have what I want!" If
you tell the Universe you want more money, youíre
really saying, "I want more money because I donít
have enough." Why else would you ask for it? If you
had enough, you wouldnít need to ask for more. When
you ask or pray for more money, you are programming the
Universe to create (or maintain) your not having
enough money! By telling the Universe that you
already have what you desire, (i.e., enough money), you
program that thought. "I have enough money" is
exactly what will be printed out for you.
The printout you see could be a
"coincidental" financial gain, or maybe an
advantageous business opportunity. Perhaps you will
"out of nowhere" gain a feeling of peace and
security with what you already have.
For whatís really important,
it is an abundant world. Once you remember who you
really are and how much creative ability you have, you
can realize all your desires from within, and find the
peace that had been once thought to be achieved from
Adapted from Relax,
Youíre Already Perfect: 10 Spiritual LessonsÖ to
Remember, copyright, 2000 by Bruce D Schneider, Ph. D.,
reprinted by permission of Ebb/Flow Publishing.
Bruce D Schneider, Ph.D., MCC is a Master Certified
Coach, licensed psychotherapist, Reiki Master, and
author of "Relax You're Already Perfect: 10
Spiritual Lessons... to Remember." He is also founder and director of the Institute for Professional
Empowerment Coaching (www.IPECcoaching.com).