by Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
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Reverend" shares her sage insights on relationships
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A Special Love Ritual from the Romance Reverend
Enjoy the Merriment and Fun of An Ancient Love Holiday
What is the holiday in May where people dance
around the maypole and make love in the woods as part of
the celebration? –Karen from Toronto,
Beltane is the ancient Celtic fertility
holiday that celebrated the rites of spring with much
frolicking and fun. In Beltane:
The Lovers Entwine, it’s explained this way:
"Beltane, or May Day, as it also known, occurs at
the peak of Spring. This is the time of year when the
earth basks in the gentle embrace of the sun’s warmth.
The warmth of the sun helps plants blossom, crops
fertilize and the rivers overflow with the melted snow
of winter past. Animals frolic about searching for
mates. People fall in love and consume each other in
Beltane is symbolic of the passion and love between
the Goddess and God. It was believed that this divine
passion was made evident in all the life and vegetation
springing forth during this time of year. As an ode to
nature, and an offering to God and Goddess, maids and
lads frolicked in the fields and part of this
celebration included enacting the rites of fertility as
an offering to ensure continued fertility of the lands.
The Maypole was made of oak and wreaths, and had ribbons
of many colors. The pole represented the male aspect of
divinity; the ribbons represented the feminine. Women
would grab a ribbon and dance around the maypole and as
it entwines, the last woman left holding the ribbon
would be crowned the May Queen. As part of the
celebration there was also an Oak King selected. The
king and queen, representing God and Goddess, would
consummate their "marriage" as a symbolic
gesture of fertility. But it was also believed that the
act of dancing around the maypole would ensure fertility
for women, cattle and crops.
One of my favorite examples of Beltane in a
mainstream movie was the scene in the movie Camelot,
where Queen Gwenevere goes off with her court "a-maying."
I recall her in a very cool medieval dress, singing the
Lerner and Lowe song: It’s May. It’s May…the
lusty month of May!
Beltane, today, remains a major Sabbat in Earth and
Goddess-based spirituality, and participants continue to
dance around the Maypole. It remains a joyous ritual,
and although the fertility rites of yesteryear are
enacted symbolically, I don’t know of any modern-day
love fests where people make love as part of the
festivities. However, many people celebrate the romance
of this holiday privately, and honor it as a time of
fertility, possibility and rebirth. It is a celebration
that nurtures joy, at a time that is ripe for creation.
The Sabbat begins April 30 and the holiday itself is
celebrated May 1.
Beltane is a celebration of the full bloom of earth
and the passions of all people... the time to celebrate
spring with merriment, joy and love. From a
non-denominational or secular perspective, anyone can
celebrate the rejuvenating powers of spring in their own
personal way. If you do not have a partner or friend to
share this sacred time with, be loving to yourself on
Beltane! Pamper and give to yourself and let Beltane be
a glorious day filled with a sense of love and new
beginnings. It is a good time to do a love ritual (see
below) or just give into fun and self-nurturing. Do so
knowing that all your joy and self-love is also an
offering to the divine!
Love, Passion and a
* A Special Ritual
from the Romance Reverend *
(Our Romance Reverend will lead
Soulful Singles Members through a variation of this love
ceremony at our upcoming chat. Watch for announcements
and instructions in our upcoming newsletter.)
Evoke the energies of love, passion and a great
relationship on the holiday dedicated to merriment and
fertility by calling in divine match makers and
petitioning the Gods and Goddesses of Love to bring you
home to true love ... and bring your truest love home to
Try this simple prayer and ritual.
1) Set up a lovely May Day altar with pretty white
and/or pink flowers. Also place a white candle and a
pink candle on the altar. Buy some sweet fruits and
place them in a small bowl. Keep a piece of paper or
journal, and pen, handy.
2) Create a sacred space of peace and quiet by
playing a soft and uplifting piece of music.
3) Light the white candle to evoke the divine light
of God, Goddess, all there is… and to signify the
purity of your own heart, mind and body.
4) Light the pink candle to symbolize the love that
already exists in your heart, and the heart of your
beloved – wherever he or she may be.
5) Use the following prayer (you can tweak this, or
write your own) to call out to your divine matchmakers
and ask them to bring your perfect mate.
Dear Mother, Father, God, Divine Essence of all
Please fill this place with your sacred presence.
My heart is pure; my intentions clear.
I ask for your guidance and your help
In finding my soul mate, my most perfect partner.
I seek a partner who enhances me by his/her very being…
Who brings more love, joy, peace and prosperity to my
Who I can love fully and who can fully receive my love…
Who loves, honors and cherishes me completely, and
*Contemplate that partner and the relationship you
* If you feel moved, list the qualities of that partner
* If you choose, softly call out the qualities in the
mate you seek as if you are describing a real person who
exists in the world (however, never ask for a
specific person or make requests that may impinge on the
will of others.)
Close with this benediction:
I have spoken truly from my heart.
Please grant my desires for love -- of self and with my
I trust you will bring this too me lovingly and gently,
in a way that is completely right for my love and me.
I give thanks for your presence, your guidance and your
Amen. And so it is.
Revel in the energy of love your prayer has begun to
percolate. Continue with some wonderful music and sit
back and relax, enjoying the sight and smell of the
flowers and the flicker of candlelight.
Take a piece of fruit and enjoy its taste. Savor it
in your mouth. May true love be as sweet and tasty.
Blessings for a sacred and soulful Beltane.
If love has not yet found you … may love be on its
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Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway All Rights Reserved.
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Reverend Laurie Sue
Brockway is an author, teacher and contemporary clergy
person who specializes in matters of the heart and soul.
As an ordained interfaith minister and
non-denominational wedding officiant, it is her honor to
regularly marry couples in love. Prior to becoming a
minister she enjoyed a successful and colorful 20 years
in media as a widely published journalist, editor and
author of eight books on relationships and
romance—as well as being a noted spokesperson
on those topics. She was editor-in-chief of two national
magazines and several regional publications, and her
articles have been published around
the world and in many newspapers and national magazines,
such as the NY Daily News, The Washington Post,
Women’s News, New Woman, Ladies’
Home Journal and Child. She evolved years of
specialized reporting in the field of male-female
relationship dynamics into a more spiritual pursuit that
led her to train to be an interfaith minister, and then
establish her wedding ministry along with her popular
relationship enhancement programs.
She continues to write on weddings, soul mates and enhancing relationships,
as well as teach on those topics. She's on the faculty of The Seminar Center
and MyPotential.com. and trains other ministers through World Light
Fellowship. She is a graduate of the New Seminary and a member of The
Association of Interfaith Ministers. Her wedding ministry is based in New