Even In Midlife,
We Can All Use A Fairy Godmother
--The Fairy Godmother,
As far as I am concerned, we can all use a Fairy God
Mother. At any age, at any stage, in any situation
involving the heart and soul, it’s so reassuring to
imagine there is a special being whose there just for you.
If you’ve lost hope in finding your prince or
princess … If you are feeling you need a change in
careers … If you are looking in the magic mirror and
hearing "you could use a little freshening up"
instead of "you are the fairest in the land" …
if you are finding that those fabulous glass slippers you
got on sale are too darn hard to walk in … of if you’ve
forgotten how to let your imagination run free and how to
trust in the abundance of the universe -- its time to let
magic back into your life.
Believing in magic is essential for creating a life of
our own choosing. It helps us to remember that we live in
an unlimited universe where anything is possible. It also
makes life fun, and more interesting.
We survive childhood by believing that magical
intervention is just a wish away – from Superman to
Santa, there’s always someone to "save the
day." Girls, especially, grow up with the concept of
a female being with magical powers that shows up when we
really need her. It’s her job to rescue us, help
us escape a bad situation and assist us in transforming
our lives; ultimately, she ordains that we’ll live
happily every after. And that is simply the way of the
universe … when we’re kids! As adults, our brains
begin to bog down with rationalization and judgments that
rob the magic available to us in real life.
Stuffy and serious as we may become, the desire for
enchantment and magical intervention often remains one of
the secret fantasies of girls. Little girls, and big ones
alike, often continue to secretly wish and hope for a
magical mentor to show. Tucked away in our hearts is the
belief there is always someone wise and wonderful who can
step in and lend a hand – or a wand. Whether she turns a
pumpkin into a coach, helps you land the prince or a great
job, shows you how beautiful you truly are, protects you
from wickedness or makes sure you live happily every after
… we all love to hope that she will someday show up and
help us make life magical. We can learn how to harness the
childhood technology for making dreams come true when we
acknowledge that we can create our own magic in life.
When you are ready to remember the magic of being a
girl, she helps us conjure the faith and optimism of
childhood and connects us to all the mystical and
magnificent possibilities of the universe. Like the
beloved grandmother or aunt with special powers, she helps
us believe in the magical divine powers of the universe
and within ourselves. She represents our innocent, magical
selves and the benevolent hand that reaches out to assist
us in living our dreams.
Who is The Fairy Godmother?
Godmother is an enchantress, a holy sacred mother of the
ancient mysteries. She ushers in what we think we do not
know or cannot have or dare not express. She offers us
gifts of the spirit: the gifts of inner guidance and
Child Cards: A Journey Into Fairy Tales, Myth & Nature,
by Isha and Mark Lerner)
The Fairy Godmother is the wonderful, magical, mystical
being who shows up in fairy tales just in the nick of
time, wand in hand, and helps the heroine turn her dreams
into reality and live life happily ever after. The
godmother’s roots extend way past the Disney movies that
have made her so popular, into the ancient religions. She
is actually a composite many different feminine archetypes
and magical beings. The concept of Godmother may be as old
as Goddess worship itself, and the ancient belief that the
goddess is a protectress of her human family. According to
the Inner Child Cards, by Isha and Mark
Lerner, some trace her roots to the Faery Queen, who
was the top female of the magical faery kingdom, the
community of mystical beings endowed with the power of
magic and enchantment (you remember them from Shakespeare’s
A Midsummer Night Dream). The author’s say some
Welsh folk ballads called fairies "the mothers"
or "mother’s blessing." The classic fairytale
by Charles Perrault was one of the first to make
Cinderella’s special helper a "Fairy
Godmother," when he said "This godmother of
hers, who was a fairy…" In an expanded view of the
magical, mystical female mentor, the Fairy Godmother-like
character is sometimes presented as a sorceress who uses
her powers for good, and especially to guide her charges
to healing and transformation. The Fairy Godmother is
often pictured as an older, wise woman with a wand that
she waves in the air, such as the Fairy Godmother in Cinderella;
or portrayed as a magical priestess seen as a "good
witch," such as Glinda, in the Wizard of Oz.
She’s also the stern but wholly magical caretaker, such
as Mary Poppins, who brings healing to the whole family.
Invite her into your life
The Fairy Godmother is our metaphor, mentor, partner,
guide… and she is one of the memorable ways in which the
Goddess has stayed alive in our hearts – as the magical
female who can do all things magnificent, as long as we do
our part as well! Continue to believe in her, and she will
stay alive in our hearts and lives!
The first step is to choose to dwell in a
magical universe. Put fairy tale inspiration all around
you. Evoke good energies with images, accessories and
words that inspire you. The Fairy Godmother, and all
her magical cohorts and accessories, empower us to open
our hearts and remember the pleasure of childhood … and
to recall the power of making things up. She is the light
side of the Goddess – benevolent, hopeful and healing.
- Read yourself a bedtime story. Filling your mind
with fanciful images and magical thoughts is so much
healthier than the 11 o’clock news! There’s a vast
array of material to choose from. Cinderella, one of the
most famous fairy tales, is told in hundreds of languages
and styles. Her Fairy Godmother has alternately been a
tiny fairy with a wand … a magical white witch/water
nymph living in a watery cave … her deceased mother.
Explore books that evoke Fairy Godmother-like characters
and tell inspiring stories about magical lives; enjoy
romance, royal treatment, happily ever after. Notice if
you feel happier, more energized, in the morning! You may
find you awake with a smile and an attitude that anything
- Enjoy art, images and ceramics. In Christmas
ornaments alone you can find enough Fairy Godmothers,
angelic beings and lovable heroines to put a smile on your
face all year round. (Hang them on windows, in doorways
and on plants).
- Tack up words and sayings. Select passages that
speak to things you want to magnetize in your life, such
as the prince and new wardrobe you’ve been after. For
example, copy or type excerpts, such as this one from
Disney’s Cinderella. "I am your Fairy Godmother
and you shall go to the ball … Then the Fairy
Godmother touched Cinderella with the wand. Her old dress
turned into a golden one, sparkling with jewels. On her
feet was the prettiest pair of glass slippers
- Buy a wand. A wand is a magical tool of choice of
all conjurers and witches – in fairy tales, and real
life. In fairytales, a wand represents magical powers and
abilities. Practitioners of Wicca and other magic-based
religions actually use wands to harness magical powers and
magnetize wishes. You can purchase a beautiful handmade
wand with fancy trimmings and stones on the end, or buy a
simple children’s wand and keep it in a place you can
see it. It is the emblem of magic in your mind; just
owning one will make you feel more magical!
- Keep fairy dust around. It’s a symbol of magic
and possibility that helps us remember life can be
invented and created from nothing, and dreams can come
true. It gives us hope. It also reminds us to "clap
for Tinkerbell," to focus our attention to make magic
happen. Use gold or silver sparkles, pretty confetti, or
buy some packaged fairy dust from Good Fairy Enterprises.
- Be inspired by magical movies and TV shows. If you
have children in your life, you already own a few magical
videos. If not, rent or purchase your favorites -- the
ones you enjoyed as a child as well as newer releases. Any
form of media that helps you tune into magical memories
and uplifting feelings is perfect to pop them in the VCR
whenever you need a pick me up. Here are a few favorites: Peter
Pan, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White
and the Seven Dwarves Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin,
The Little Mermaid, Splash, and The Tenth
Kingdom. Also very helpful in awakening the
imagination and making your smile: Reruns of Bewitched and
I Dream of Jeannie.
Listen to your Fairy Godmother’s advice
Take personal responsibility. While it would be
nice to clean up our messes and issues with one wave of
her wand, we have to be willing to take the journey she
invites us on. Even in fairy tales we are asked to do our
part in transforming our own lives. Before she waves a
wand and snaps her fingers, she makes sure we get a life
lesson unlike any other. It is the journey of becoming
more of who we are meant to be that really leads us to the
potential for happily every after. It is only after
we take the journey – with all the scary twists and
bumps and dark characters – that we are ready to take a
leap of faith that leads us to the ultimate healing that
changes our lives. So when you find yourself on one of
those bumpy life paths, don’t ever give up hope…
remember: it is all a process.
Appreciate her special support. She taps us into
the Goddess within by helping us believe in ourselves. The
magical accessories are just to help us fake it until
we make it. The true gift is the boost of confidence.
While it may seem that Cinderella’s life changed with
just a twist of her wand, in truth, her Fairy Godmother
represents a true mother figure, a soul friend, who
reached out a hand to help her onto the next rung of her
life journey. By showing her some of life’s options, she
expanded Cinderella’s ability to go after the greater
things in life.
Ask for big presents, but accept whatever is given. The
modern Cinderella might prefer a magical credit card with
unlimited prepaid credit and a limo driver to take her
shopping – and that’s fine. But if you ask for Visa
Gold and a driver, and first get a Macy’s gift
certificate and cab fare … accept it gratefully. The
Fairy Godmother sometimes tests us before she delivers the
goods. Our grace and gratitude in the face of
disappointment helps us remain humble and grounded when
the big windfall occurs.
Get home by midnight. The Fairy Godmother is also
the voice inside our heads that guides us. She knows
exactly when the magic of any given situation will wear
off, and when to come home. Heed her guidance because it
is always for your own good!
Wish upon a star, every night. Or, write one wish a
night on a small piece of paper and slip it under your
pillow before you go to sleep. Your Fairy Godmother and
the cosmic crew are always listening.
© Copyright 2003 Rev. Laurie Sue
Brockway. All Rights Reserved.
"I am ready for a magical life."
SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS:
IF YOU COULD ASK YOUR FAIRY GODMOTHER FOR
THREE WISHES, WHAT WOULD THEY BE?
Romance Reverend’s Tools for the Heart and Soul
This issue of Soulful
Living introduces the Romance Reverend’s favorite
picks for books, tapes and goodies to uplift the spirit
and enhance your relationship to yourself and others.
Not Your Mother’s Midlife: A
Ten-Step Guide To Fearless Aging by Nancy Alspaugh and
Marilyn Kentz (Andrews McMeel Publishing, 2003):
This book, by two passionate midlife
Goddesses, tackles the myths of midlife and challenges
societies worn out perceptions that we women lose value as
we age! The authors bring the passion, creativity, zest,
zip and sense of possibility to our "wise woman"
years. The book is packaged with a CD of visualizations
and soothing music. Very inspiring and HELPFUL!
The Complete Idiot’s Guide To
Sensual Massage by Dr Patti Britton and Helen Hodgson
(Alpha Books, October 2003):
This fabulous how-to is one of the best
relationship manual ever. It’s designed to help pep up
you love life or assist new lovers in uniting in a
healthy, loving and intimate way. It’s takes you on a
journey from the importance of touch and relaxation … to
some of the most FUN, sensual and satisfying things known
to man and woman kind. Clinical sexologist Dr. Patti
Britton is a hip, wise and often humorous sex coaches and
Helen Hodgson – referred to in the book as Goddess Helen
– is a superb and skillful massage therapist. Together
they offer a plethora of sex-positive insights and tips
and hands-on training in pleasure and intimacy. They
dedicate the book to all the sexless marriages and the
possibilities that lie within! A great read, even for
singles, to help you wish upon a star for the perfect
partner to share these pleasures and treats with!
The Circle: How the Power of a Single
Wish Can Change Your Life by Laura Day (J. P. Tarcher;
Laura Day is the first person I ever
heard use the phrase "Create Your New Reality."
And she is the Queen of coaching people how to create
their new realities. She does it so well in person and has
smoothly translated it to a small, easy to use book that
can change your life. She first asks the question: What
if a single wish could change your life? The answer: It
can--if you know how to use it to harness energy within
and all around you that you never knew existed. She
proceeds to shows readers how one carefully crafted wish
can serve as a match to ignite potent and lasting
transformation in their lives. Each of the book's three
sections features exercises that lead readers to discover
the hidden potential in themselves, in others, and in the
surrounding universe. Laura shows wishful thinking is a
force for powerful change. This a very cool book; and a
labor of love from the author!
© Copyright 2003 Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway All Rights
Reverend Laurie Sue's Past Columns:
2003 - "The Secret to Serenity"
2003 - "A
Gathering of Goddesses: Our Girlfriends Keep Us Real"
2003 - "Love Has Its Own Schedule"
2003 - "A Spring Time Reawakening To Soulful Love
and Self Love"
2003 - "Marry Yourself First..."
2002 - "Who is the Goddess?" & "The
2002 - "How to Clear Your Love Clutter"
2002 - "How to Mourn a Broken Heart and Lost
2002 - "Relationships That Nurture and Inspire
Growth of the Soul
2002 - "Finding Peace in a Turbulent World"
2002 - "Sacred Sexuality For Modern Men and
2002 - "When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons"
2002 - "When Life Has You Down, Remember You Are
2002 - "Plan a Valentine's Day Team Date"
2002 - "Do I Hear Him Knocking … From the Other
2001 - "How Do We Make Our Love Dreams Come True?"
2001 - "What is the Future of Love?"
2001 - "Getting to Know
the Goddess of Good Fortune"
2001 - "Can't Hurry Love... It Will Happen in Its Right Moment"
2001 - "Family Rituals Help Us Grow Into Loving Beings"
2001 - "Dreams Warn It’s Time To Own Your Power"
2001 - "A Fun Visual of Your Favorite Romance"
May 2001 - "Someday
Your Mystical Soul Mate Will Come"
2001 - "Enjoy the Merriment and Fun of An Ancient Love
2001 - "Nourish Yourself On a Date for One"
2001 - "Get Ready for Soulful Love"
Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is
an interfaith minister who is often called upon to
teach, speak and write about women’s spirituality and
The Feminine Faces of God. She is author of, A GODDESS
IS A GIRL’S BEST FRIEND: A DIVINE GUIDE TO FINDING
LOVE, SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS, from Perigee Books,
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