Adrienne's work and teachings have been a great
inspiration to me! In August of 1998, about four months after my
father passed away, I read about one of Carol's
workshops in a Learning Annex catalog and
synchronistically found her book on a bookshelf at the
bookstore. The themes of her teachings were
familiar and comforting, as they confirmed the thoughts
and ideas my father had shared with me shortly before
his passing. Her books and workshops ignited my
spiritual curiosity, setting me on my soulful life path,
which led to the very creation of
SoulfulLiving.com! Carol's participation has been
an integral part of SoulfulLiving.com, at its soul
level! Thank you, Carol, with all my heart!
~Valerie, Founder and Soul, SoulfulLiving.com
A I M
A simple acronym can help us stay centered
when we are at a crossroads. The idea came to me as I was
preparing material for seminars based on my new book, When
Life Changes, Or You Wish It Would: How to survive and thrive
in uncertain times. I wanted to give students an
experience of knowing that the unconscious—or
intuition—will direct our attention to something we need to
know—when we ask! The word AIM, as a mnemonic device, popped
into my mind.
First of all, when you focus your attention on something—such
as AIM--you tend to see it everywhere. We’ve all had the
experience of wanting to buy a certain kind of car in a
particular color, and then suddenly seeing those cars
everywhere on the highway or in parking lots. As you read this
article about the word AIM, you are sensitizing your conscious
mind and programming the unconscious mind to notice this word.
Therefore, tonight when you listen to the news, read the
newspaper in the morning, pick up a book, or talk to a friend,
somewhere you are going to see or hear this word AIM. It will
be a gentle reminder that you can "put yourself on
assignment" to find something you need, meet someone, or
receive a new opportunity.
What message will AIM remind you of when
you see it?
The word AIM will be an acronym, which
answers the five most common questions that people ask when
facing Life Changes or finding their Life Purpose:
- How can I get clarity about what I’m supposed to do?
- How do I choose between several options?
- How do I know something is right for me?
- How do I deal with the fear of making a change?
- How do I stay focused and on track?
In this context, let’s look at the words
that AIM might represent:
A = Authenticity,
Attitude, Assignment, Awareness
I = Intention,
M = Motivation, Moment
Each of these nine words is a reminder of how to move
forward during times of uncertainty, so let’s define what
AUTHENTICITY is the feeling that who you are and what you
do are one and the same. Authenticity is feeling that the
inner and outer You are consistent.
The feeling of being authentic—that is, acting in tune
with your values—automatically provides courage and
confidence. A woman named Shirley from Las Vegas told me,
"I went through some difficult times with my divorce, but
because ‘I knew who I was,’ I could weather being stripped
down to my core, and come out of the experience shaken but
okay." The suffering did not strip away a basic knowledge
of who she knew herself to be—a survivor with a keen
intelligence and a sense of humor who would inevitably spring
back. When you make a choice, make sure it’s in alignment
with who you really are. You’ll know you are on the right
track if your choice makes you feel good about yourself.
ATTITUDE is your best chance of taking change in stride—and
of course, that means having a Good attitude! You aren’t
going to be able to stop your life from changing, and you are
not always going to be able to change the things you want to
change. However, it makes all the difference in the world if
you have an open, curious, and optimistic attitude. Remember
that old Zen story about the farmer who tells the Zen master
that his horse ran away? The Zen master says, "Hmmm, who
knows if it’s good or bad?" That’s having an open
ASSIGNMENT is the process of stating what you want to have
or what you need to know, and then watching for it to show up.
I have a good friend, Cori, who writes travel articles. She
once had an assignment to write an article about golf courses
from A to Z. She easily found a golf course for every letter
of the alphabet except X. She kept searching for an X, but
couldn’t find anything. Just before her deadline, she was
driving somewhere and noticed that the car in front of her had
a bumper sticker advertising the Winchester Mystery House near
San Jose, CA. It said, "X Marks The Spot!" Since her
intuition was highly attuned to "X," she saw this
bumper sticker as a possible answer. She decided to
investigate golf courses in the San Jose area and found a
noteworthy one, which allowed her to finish the article on
time. Similarly, you, too, can put yourself "on
assignment" whenever you are facing a decision or need to
gather new information. Stay alert to whatever catches your
AWARENESS of the potential gifts within a seeming obstacle
helps you to stay open to all kinds of information, even when
at first something seems to be an impediment or setback. There
are no accidents, and everything happens for a reason.
INTENTION is the state of mind where you intellectually and
emotionally deeply desire something. This goal or person may
not be in your life at present, but you intend to do it or
have it. If you don’t specifically know what you want (and
many of us don’t know or are afraid to ask for what we
want), concentrate instead on describing how you want to feel.
You may not know where your next job is going to be, but
make a list of feelings you’d like to have (e.g., "I
want to feel excited when I get up in the morning." or
"I want to work with a really good group of people where
I feel comfortable and creative.") By your
intention, you set a direction, while remaining open to
something even better coming along.
IMAGINATION is that act of setting the intention and
visualizing something that matters to you. Imagine eating a
piece of chocolate mud pie with whip cream on top and a
sprinkle of finely chopped walnuts. Imagination is the
powerful radiating message that you send out to Life. It’s
the magnet which starts to attract good things. Some teachers
believe that daydreaming or imagining what you want, even for
as little as 60 seconds a day, starts a mysterious chain of
events that attracts into your life what you need or want.
INTUITION is the messenger that tells us something we need
to hear that will move us in the right direction. At a
crossroads, we tend to get caught up in fear, paralysis,
depression, rationalization, or procrastination. These
negative states tend to block true intuition. The good thing
is that intuitive thoughts tend to be persistent. For example,
you often think to yourself, "It would be good for me to
go to graduate school." or "It’s time to start my
own business." Usually the message keeps coming back..
Although you may feel a slight amount of fear about starting
the new direction, intuition is usually not warning you
about something as much as it is encouraging you to
move outside your comfort zone in order to develop new or
unrealized aspects of your life.
MOTIVATION is your reason for doing something. If you are
making a choice for the wrong reasons (e.g., you feel
desperate, you feel needy, you want to be taken care of, or
you think you can get something for nothing), your project
will ultimately bring you some form of failure or suffering.
If you want to know if something is good for you, take a
moment to ask yourself, "Why would I be doing this? Why
do I really want this?" You may not get a completely
clear answer, but your intuition will be your best source of
guidance, even if it takes you twenty years to see that
clarity in retrospect!
Staying alert and present as you
participate in the MOMENT is a good way to surf through the
chaos of being at a crossroads or uprooted chaotically. You
cannot control events. You cannot control other people.
Synchronicity happens when you work with what life presents to
you. When you are worrying, you are either thinking about what
you did in the past, or feeling anxious about the future,
which cuts off your intuitive and rational process. Accept
what’s in front of you, and stay alert for synchronistic
messages that validate your positive intentions—for now. For
example, I received an email from a client whom I am coaching
in order to help her land a position in a certain company. She
"I had the most wonderful experience
today... I was driving home from a meeting and I passed the
Organized Living store. I didn't really need any more
organization stuff but I felt like I should stop anyway. I
walked through the store, up and down each aisle and there
really was nothing I needed. Then I came across the clock
aisle and there it was: a clock with three clock faces on it:
Minneapolis, Sydney, and London. I have been visualizing my
new job as VP of Global Relationships, reporting to the
President of the division who resides in Sydney and keeping
tabs on a big project the company is working on in London. Of
course I purchased the clock!! Now I have something else to
keep me in the VP of Global Relationships mindset."
This story shows: 1) she is enjoying the
present moment after her meeting; 2) she is listening to the
small voice of intuition even though she doesn’t know where
it’s leading her. 3) Her previous intention creates the
attention and awareness that immediately recognizes the
three-faced clock as a synchronicity that validates her
interest in the globally-based company. 4) By buying the
clock, she further increases her intention and her confidence
so that she can continue to enjoy the process of how her goals
So….until next month…Take AIM!
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Carol Adrienne, Ph.D., is an internationally-known workshop
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over fifteen languages. Oprah hailed, The Purpose of Your
Life: Finding Your Place in the World Using Synchronicity,
Intuition, and Uncommon Sense (William Morrow, 1999) a
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